They believe that they deserve all your attention and love without giving you anything in return. No one wants to be treated like this. Even when they fail to do so, we often tend to excuse them by thinking that they just had a bad day or they had other more important things to do. They may even try to shift the responsibility to you and blame you for all the problems that will arise in your relationship. To have a healthy and deep relationship both partners must show commitment, empathy, affection, and interest. They should equally share their responsibilities.
They believe that they can never upset you or break your heart. They will think that you can never leave them and that things are going to be the same forever. Your partner will always think his needs, opinions, pleasures, and problems matter more than yours. It may seem strange but the way your partner communicates with you can reveal a lot about them. A selfish person is always concerned about what they want.
This is a reoccurring theme, I know. If we're honest, this is because selfish people have only one concern: So, when you begin to say anything negative, especially if it is about anything that concerns his ability or lack thereof in bed, he will get upset and defensive.
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If you are still struggling to figure out if your boyfriend may be selfish, then pay attention to his behavior in the bedroom. The way he treats you in bed will say a lot. Who is the priority when you're in bed together? What does his behavior tell you? Does he want you? Does he want to please you? Or, is it all about him? In my opinion, you can tell a man is selfish by paying attention to him when you are in bed together. Now, this can't be something where you think of one specific time you were in bed together, and his behavior showed that he was selfish because you didn't finish.
1. He constantly asks for your support without giving you any support in return.
To truly figure out if your boyfriend is selfish, you need to look at your collective experiences when you're in bed together. Does he initiate the sex, or do you? Do you tell him what you like, and does he do it; or are you always expected to do what he likes? What is his behavior like after sex? What is he like on the nights you are in bed together, but there may be no sex? Does his behavior change when he gets what he wants and when he doesn't?
I believe that the collective answers to these questions will be very telling to whether or not your boyfriend may be selfish. It's not always easy to take a look at these things. Be honest with yourself, and you may get an honest answer as to whether or not your boyfriend is selfish or not. Another sign that your boyfriend may be selfish can be seen by how he spends his time. Is your boyfriend making an effort to see you when he has the time or is he only seeing you when it's convenient for him? Is he making time for you or are you begging him to come over or to see him? When someone is selfish, they tend to like to spend time alone, or away from anyone who isn't going to let them do whatever they want when they want to.
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They want to be able to do the things they want to without having to "check-in," so they will claim they're busy when they aren't. If your boyfriend is selfish, you will see it come through in the time he is or isn't spending with you. Does it seem like you always have to fight for what you want in the relationship?
Whether it be in bed, what to watch on T. Well, this is a big sign that your boyfriend is selfish. When he only "gives in to you," and he may actually say that, he is doing so because he has something to gain from it. A selfish person won't just compromise for the sake of building a relationship. They have motives that run deeper. You may notice that you only got to go to the movie you wanted because afterward your boyfriend wanted you to try something new in bed. Or, maybe he let you choose where to go to eat dinner because it was during dessert that he told you he was going to Las Vegas with his buddies for the weekend.
One good way for me to do so is just to sleep very, veeeery long and get a fresh cup of coffee the morning after. What is your recipe to relax?
NEW post about this topic now up on the blog. A post shared by Steven Epprecht stevenepprecht on Nov 27, at I've noticed when I've dated selfish guys in the past, that everything was on their terms. This included when we would and wouldn't spend the night together. We could be lying in bed, and I would ask him to stay, but if it wasn't something he wanted to do or made the morning commute more difficult for him, he would go.
Selfish people always have their needs and what's most convenient for them as the priority. You will notice this in your relationship as well if you are dating a selfish person, and it will glare at you in this instance when you take a closer look. A selfish man doesn't stay with you just to hold you and be with you because you're upset, or scared.
He won't be there for you unless it is convenient for him. On the other side of this, you may notice that he will always stay with you if you live close to where he works, or his gym, or any other place that may make his life easier. You may find that he's always suggesting he stays the night, and it isn't to be romantic in bed either. Whether it's getting him lunch, taking his dry cleaning or picking up something he needs for work a selfish boyfriend is going to expect that you should put his needs first and take care of whatever he needs.
He doesn't care if you have things you need to do. A selfish boyfriend will always call or text you and expect that you will drop everything for him, whenever he needs it. Maybe you notice that you only hear from him when he needs something. This is a big sign you are in a relationship with a selfish man. This is one of those traits that seems like it could be his way of showing you he likes you, when in fact he's just selfish.
If a man expects you to wake up early, go get his coffee and has you wait for him so "you can see him before work or school" then I would start to be less flattered and more concerned. He may make it seem like he's going out of his way so he can see you, but in fact, he is making you go out of your way for him. A selfish person may have traits that seem at first like they are a flirting and they have a way of making it sound like everything will benefit you.
However, in the long run, it's only beneficial for one person - them. Be aware of this and remember that when it happens one time, it's cute, but a pattern is a warning sign that he's just selfish. A post shared by clodet. It's especially difficult if we've fallen in love with him. If you're finding that you are, or may be dating a selfish man, then it may be time to think about what you really want.
1. Their interest in your career seems tainted
Everyone is different, and I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt. Maybe your man doesn't realize that his actions are selfish, some men are clueless.
Others are selfish because they are used to being alone or dating women who just give them what they want. While on the other hand, other men are selfish because it's a character trait they have and it's not going anywhere anytime soon. My advice would be first to take a close look. Take a look at the signs he may be showing and his motivations. I would then talk to your man. You know him better than I do, so you know if it's worth a conversation. You know if he's selfish, or if these selfish tendencies may be a result of something else. When all else fails, if he's selfish and it's time for a change - get a dog.
Dogs will always put you first. Have you started to notice you're only around for one thing? Their interest in your career seems tainted. There are so many rules, your relationship is like a puzzle. They don't show interest in how you are doing. They only want your success to go so far. They are overly concerned with you maintaining a certain look or appearance. They are clearly the priority.